Freedom lies in being bold. – Robert Frost
It’s almost time for a NEW YEAR! I relish any and every chance to celebrate a new beginning. The final quarter of 2014 is in full swing and once the holiday festivities commence, the year will begin it’s warp speed flash mob towards 2015.
How are you feeling about the year so far? Knowing that it’s all closing out and that there’s still so much on my to-do list got me thinking about the elements of time. Which then got me thinking about procrastination, or more precisely, waiting. Which then led me to thinking about perfectionism (there’s a lot of thinking goin on in this house), black and white thinking (see), and good ol’ fear.
If you find yourself “waiting” to do something. One of two things is usually going on.
1. You’re afraid
2. You’re afraid (that you’re not good enough)
you’re not good enough to have that job
you’re not worth that awesome wardrobe
you don’t deserve that dream trip you always talk about
you don’t have what it takes to get the agent or guy or home or what-ev-ah
It’s not like you walk around consciously thinking “Oh I don’t deserve to have what I want so I think this will do just fine for now” No. Hell no. We’re all far too clever for that.
These thoughts usually go something like…
I need more experience before I apply for that job
I’m gonna lose weight before I buy my dream wardrobe
I should really heal my heart before I even think about dating again
I need to make more money before I plan my dream trip to Italy
I gotta have a new portfolio before I get an agent
But wait. There’s more! We then proceed to convince ourselves that waiting, holding out, getting better first, is in our best interest.
Jane: I really need more experience, training, contacts and overall know-how before I apply for that job.
Sue: Why don’t you apply and let them decide?
Sue is so frickin smart!
Just do the damn thing and leave the results to Providence
prov·i·dence noun., – God, especially when conceived as omnisciently directing the universe and the affairs of humankind with wise benevolence.
So basically you do your part and leave the rest up to the powers that be.
So what to do? Flip the script.
1. Write down everything you’re currently putting on hold in your life. Go ahead I’ll wait.
2. And then go do it. NOW.
So the list above would play out something like…
Apply for that gig, buy dream wardrobe, date like it’s your job, and start learning Italian.
Bam. Now what do you have? A life! OH looksy there. Just like that you’ve got yourself a life and some livin’ to do.
Living your life opens up EVERYTHING! I’ve had setbacks, loss, the natural ups and downs of a year, but no matter what I keep moving. And you know what. It has been the greatest year of my life! So far.
My life is always getting better. And life keeps on surprising me. I’m doing it all very, very, very imperfectly. Hair messy, money funny, weight up (not down), but providence has stepped in, smoothing the path all along the way. Life doesn’t care if my hair’s not done, only I do. 🙂
Giving up perfectionism is infinitely more freeing and in the process you fall in love with yourself, your life, and with every person that crosses your path. It’s been a real lesson. Living. Life. And ain’t that what we came here to do?
I love knowing that everything is always working out for me. Not going to work out, but currently, present tense, right this second working out for me. No matter what it looks like, everything is working out perfectly for you too.
Now get off the intranet and get to twerk!