I was scheduled to send out one more post about my new package but feel like writing off the cuff because it’s been a DAY.
All courtesy of my sometimes crazy, possibly out to get me head.
The day started off all sunshine and kittens until I innocently decided to listen to a podcast on my morning walk only to hear how this girl made over 100k in her FIRST 3 months in business and I was like whaaaaat!?!
How? Like, literally how are people doing this?
Panic and anxiety and stress started to bubble up inside of me.
Thoughts like “walking… what are you doing walking? ain’t nobody got time for that. YOU better get home and get your ass to werk!” were racing through my head.
I thought damn, I should be making 6 figures every 90 days! I’m older and more experienced and blab blah de blah blah.
I even went so far as to think I must have some unconscious programming that makes easy success impossible for me. (when all else fails just blame it on your unconscious because um that’s kinda hard to fix).
Yeah I was on one.
So I had to do what I do and coach myself off the ledge – one, because I had a full day of work to get through and two, because I soooo dislike feeling icky like that!
Here’s what I came up with for handling the compare and despair blues…in case it ever happens to you.
1. GET DRESSED – I took a shower, blow dried my hair, did a full face of makeup and got dressed as nice as I possibly could for a hot Wednesday afternoon. Tony Robbins talks about breaking states – things like changing your posture (shoulders up) can create a huge shift in how you feel and approach situations.
Well, same can be said for dressing up! When I look my best, I feel better. I realize some of you may do this daily but I work from home and can be total schlumpadink when I’m on a work bender so I did this first
2. GO CLEAN AND CLEAR – I stepped away from the interwebs, set a time for 30 minutes, put on some good music and cleaned out my purse, my wallet and the trunk of my car.
There’s some buddhist quote I can’t find about how cleaning ANYTHING calms a turbulent mind. It works! I just should’ve gotten dressed and all made up after the cleaning not before…
3. PUT ON BIG BLINDERS – This really is the key to not falling down the rabbit hole in the first place. You’ve got to have the discipline to not do things that hurt.
It’s like stalking someone on social media who’s dumped you. It ONLY brings pain. The simple advice: STOP IT!
I’ve done a lot of unsubscribing in the past 3 months and even with social media if I ever start to feel the comparison itch, I stop, delete, block or whatever I need to do in order to feel good and protect my energy. Today I didn’t do that and I paid for it.
Having an online business that requires social media makes it harder but not impossible. If you start to get into comparing where you are with where they are – just separate from it completely. Walk away.
4. DO THE WORK – Lastly, spend some time on your own projects and goals. Even one hour or 3 tiny things will reset your focus for the day.
The other thing I use when I’m strugglin’ is this life-changing tool called The Work. I went last October to spend 10 days with this woman and this practice really works… when I use it. It’s all totally free on that site. The thought I worked today was “It’s not possible for me”.
Does the comparison trap ever happen to you?
If yes, please leave a comment below and share what you do to feel better. Comparison hangovers are the worst.
Ok I’m off for now…
P.S. What do you think of the giphy?! I think I’m gonna start abusing that privilege now that I know how to use em.